by Nadia Chung
Hovering parents end up with kids that are not independent.
直升機父母培養出一群無法獨立的草莓族。
A woman
labeled "America's Worst Mom" had to
defend herself against the embarrassing nickname after she let her nine-year-old son ride on the New York City
subway alone. _(1)_ Helicopter parents would certainly disagree.
Coined in 1990, the term "helicopter
parenting" is used to describe
overprotective parents, who are mostly middle-class
baby boomers. They
hover over their children and are always worried about their
academic and professional success. _(2)_ Some helicopter parents even write college essays, edit
résumés, and
show up at job interviews with them.
No one really doubts the
motives of these parents. _(3)_ The
excessive investment these parents make in their children's
upbringing and achievements may end up having an
adverse effect. By doing nearly everything for their children, they
limit them
to safe situations. This means the kids are kept from learning basic survival skills and how to
cope with failure on their own. A study shows that helicopter kids tend to be more
self-conscious, more
vulnerable, and less open to new ideas. _(4)_
Experts are now offering some advice to helicopter parents. First, act as a coach, not as a rescuer. Second, encourage children to make their own decisions and help them learn to solve problems rather than take care of everything for them. _(5)_ As "America's Worst Mom" argues, "The way kids learn to be
resourceful is by having to use their resources." Children fly higher when they
are not
tied to the ground.
(A) For them, it is hard to become
self-sufficient and
independent adults, which is their parents'
ultimate goal.
(B) The problem is that such
intentions often
stem from a desire
on the part of the parents to raise their own
self-esteem.
(C)
It's not uncommon for these parents
to make decisions,
intervene in
conflicts, and do homework for their children.
(D) Finally, give them the space and chance to learn from their mistakes.
(E) "It was a
reasonable risk," she argued.
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